Reflections From Sid Hill That Mirror My Own

Every now and then, you come across someone else's words that express exactly what you’ve been feeling—but in a way that’s so clear and honest, you just have to share them.

This reflection by garden designer Sid Hill is one of those. I could try to rephrase it or put it in my own words, but honestly, I don't think I could say it any better. His experience and his way of seeing things mirror my own so closely—it feels like he’s speaking straight from my heart too.

With his permission, here’s what he wrote:

“How do I navigate in a culture that glorifies individual achievement and the ego, when ecology shows us that everything thrives through connection and mutual support?

I don’t have the answers. This is something I’ve been navigating over the years as a privileged white male.

It’s been a journey. On one hand, I need to promote the work I do to make a living. There’s pressure from the world around me to be 'successful' in the way modern culture defines it—more visibility, more income, more achievement. On the other hand, what I feel for is to potter in the garden, craft with my hands, and be in service to my community. Supporting an ecological culture that values people growing, being slow, and offering care to each other and wildlife.

It seems it's a back and forth for me. I get pulled in directions by opportunities, the idea of 'success.' Then I check in—'how does this feel?' Do I feel stressed or overwhelmed? Does this sit well with my values? Then I make a decision whether it sits well or I drop it. Often my mind will say 'but Sid, this would be great for your career, it would be great for your bank balance, or it’s a fantastic opportunity.' However, if it doesn’t feel good to me, then the answer is 'NO.'

I live in a culture that glorifies the individual, yet in ecology, there is no such thing as an individual. Life thrives through collaboration, community, and connection. I’ve noticed that when I become distracted by my business—on earning, growing, doing—my availability to support other forms of wealth is reduced: time with others, my health, and a sense of peace.

I don’t have the answers. I just know that trying to live slowly, honestly, and with care in a fast-paced, success-driven world is complex, especially when, like me, you benefit from certain privileges. It’s easy to get caught up in your own ego. I try to stay aware of that, but it’s a balancing act in this odd but beautiful world.”

I share these feelings completely. I’ve made a choice in my business to prioritise simplicity, sustainability, family, and connection over chasing profit or recognition. I don’t want the stress that comes from trying to grow for growth’s sake. I want to do things the right way—thoughtfully, with care, and in alignment with the kind of world I believe in.

So thank you, Sid, for putting these thoughts into words. It’s a reminder that I’m not alone in this, and maybe others feel the same too.

Words by Sid Hill, shared with permission. You can learn more about his work through his garden design practice.